Month: April 2019

Drama Free..

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Talk about a huge wake-up call!

I have had some crazy things happen in my life. Things that I would have never consciously chosen to happen. Things, people, situations that caused a lot of pain and hurt, and that I resented for a long time.

Truth of the matter is, I unconsciously did choose those things. Mostly out of fear. Fear of judgement, fear of loneliness, fear of rejection, fear of failure, and even fear of showing my true self, to name a few. I have come to realize that fear is a very powerful, and often times destructive, emotion that every single person struggles with constantly. Sad part is, that fear is mostly in our own heads. It is worry about something that may or may not happen, with usually a slight chance of it actually happening the way we are fearing. Unfortunately, while we are spending so much time fearing something, we are putting that out into the universe, and the universe delivers…. every time!

A few years ago, my husband came to me and said he wanted a divorce. I was devastated, but also in the back of my mind was a voice saying “Figures! This always happens.” Looking back, I began to realize where it was my fear (this always happens) that was the catalyst for the whole situation. I had never had good luck in relationships, and I held on to that fear when it came to my husband. No matter how good he was too me, I always had that thought that he would leave. My fear created my drama. Lucky for me, he is a really good man and has helped me work through my crazy.

I have been taking a good long look at my past, and all of the craziness that has happened, and I am finding the fear that caused it. I am looking at that drama, and realizing where it was that I created, invited, or associated with it, and learning to change my thinking for the better in the future. It’s not an easy process, but it is a peaceful path as you go along it, because you start to release the fear and allow the good things to manifest instead.

May the light within you light your path,

Momma Mona

Acceptance

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Let me make this clear…

I am not looking for you to validate me or approve of me, and I promise I will not do the same for you.

The things I will be saying on this page are my thoughts, my views, my experiences, and my lessons learned and being learned. The words that I speak (or type as the case may be) are done so from my unique vantage point on my journey. They are created and strung together by each and every achievement, mistake, adventure and heartbreak that I have experienced. No other person in the world has had the same exact life that I have had, and therefore no other person will have the same exact view on life either. So, it is therefore impossible for another being to validate or approve without coming from a place of judgement.

What I can offer you, and would receive in kind, is acceptance of you who are at this exact time, no matter where or who you have been, where or who you are now, or where or who you will become.  Acceptance is something that comes from a place of compassion and understanding. It allows an individual to be able to validate and accept oneself without feeling as if they have to justify themselves. Funny thing is, once we start showing acceptance to others, we learn that we are not as alone as we once thought, and can start to learn to validate and approve of ourselves as well.

Understand though, acceptance does not mean you have to allow another person into your life. It simply changes the pronoun on which you make your decision. Instead of “I do not approve of you and therefore you are not allowed in my life.”, it becomes “I accept you for who you are, but I can not allow you into my life because it is bad for me.”